Sandy always wanted a fannish wake

[wickedwords]

Many years ago, Shoshanna bought a round of mimosa's for everyone at Escapade as part of a celebration. That really impressed Sandy, and for years after, she mentioned wanting to include the fannish community in her life like that--and for Sandy, that usually was conceived of as a wake when she passed. In the 1990s, she made me promise that after she was gone, I would contact the concom of the nearest slash convention, and help organize a celebration of fannish life, organize her wake.

Worlds change, and Vividcon is the closest con to her passing. I've contacted the con com, and asked if we could set aside some space for a couple of hours to sing and talk or just have some quiet time to reflect on what she meant to us all. I know they were already working on a tribute vid show, and with Club Vivid and Karoke and Fannish History and, well, everything, I figure the whole place is going to be filled with memories of her and joy at what she added to our fannish conversation. There is food and drink and dancing and fans parting and talking and a House o'Meat, all ready made for us all; it's already a celebration, so I don't feel like I have to really have to add a thing. Please bring pictures if you have them, or if there's a story or something you'd like to contribute. I think we'd all like to share, and we'll figure something out.

In addition to Vividcon, I think we're going to do something at Escapade. Sandy and I went to that con starting in year 2, and we would have made year one if it hadn't been 4 months after the con where we first heard about it. That's another place to share with fellow fans and celebrate her life. Maybe we can find some of the old filks, since Sandy loved to sing.

Comments

[arallara]

Since I can never swing VVC, I would love it if we could do something at Escapade. You and Sandy are both absolutely associated with my Escapade experience in my mind, and I can hardly imagine that I won't ever see her at one again. Nothing sounds like a better way to remember Sandy than to be in a room with other fans celebrating her together at a con.

[wickedwords]

That's one of the reasons I was thinking we needed two celebrations, as they hit different people and different communities. I think both need their own memorials, so yes, will work with Escapade concom to figure something out.

[lys]

This is awesome. I am going to miss VVC this year, but I am totally going to go to Escapade, if only for this.

And I'll be able to drink alcohol again by then!! :->

[laurashapiro]

I am looking forward to hearing all of the wonderful stories people will share. I will drink and sing and celebrate with you anytime.

[morgandawn]

I hope to be there for both celebrations. I love the fact that we started the 'wake' before Sandy left and that many of us got a chance to say things to her that we normally don't get to hear until after we've passed.

That came out a bit weird.... Mimosas for everyone!!!

[batdina]

yes yes yes for doing something at Escapade. We'd be happy to help with any and all preparation as well. Keep us both in mind?

(we is leela_cat and me, aka cyn and jane.)

[meri_oddities]

I am going to try and make Escapade next year. VVC is just out of the questions this year. I'm going to South Dakota the following weekend for a marathon, and I just don't have the leave.

I hope you're doing okay, or at least as okay as you can be.

escapade

[talking_sock]

I'll try to make Escapade next year for this... sorry I'll miss VVC. Did you get the pic I sent?

Love, L

Re: escapade

[wickedwords]

Yes, I got the photo, thanks! It is cool to have one of us all together. It has to be pre-2001, as that's when I lost 70 lbs. So 1999 sounds good to me; not sure if there's anyway to make that more exact.

[kass]

I wish so much that I could be at VVC this year. I already knew I was going to be missing everyone desperately that weekend; now I will be missing not only all of y'all, but the celebration of snady and her memory and her life and her awesomeness. Please know that I am thinking of you (and of her) all the time. I send love from afar.