wickedwords

Ah! So the issue is that you are in transition, and have a bunch of fan work under an old fan name which was also your real life name. Yes, that situation sucks, and it takes several years of consistently using the new identify for it to take root. it sounds like your going about it responsibly though, and not freaking out when people use the old fan name, but instead politely asking them to use the new one. Go, you, for being reasonable and rational here! Transitioning names is tough, and it takes a lot of work, but it sounds like you're making the best of it.